Posts tagged with: single mothers

Single Mothers and Depression Part 6: Keeping Busy, Keeping Happy

I am happiest when I am busy. I think that I may actually have Adult ADD. Why? Because I have so many things going through my mind at once. All of the time. It never seems to stop.

And, if I don’t write everything that comes to mind down, I lose it. I may never remember it.

What does this have to do with depression? Well, I think that this may have left me feeling very overwhelmed recently. This overwhelming feeling may have contributed, at least in a small way, to my depression. I just kept forgetting things, and wasn’t finishing things.

I am taking steps to help myself with this problem, in the form of to-do lists and schedules. Goals and plans. These things should help me greatly.

Yes, I am happiest when my mind has something to do. I just want to start finishing the projects that I have begun before starting new ones. It is a struggle, but I plan to master this skill.

At any rate, I am still feeling pretty chipper. I am enjoying myself more as well, hanging out with my sisters and my best friend more, and talking with my daughter more. Good things are happening, and I am not letting people get me down.

I am in control of my feelings.

Shannon

P.S. What struggles and successes are you having with your depression? Please let us know in the comment section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Single Mothers and Depression

Single Mothers and Depression Part 2: Two Weeks After Beginning Medication

Single Mothers and Depression Part 3: Happiness and Creativity

Single Mothers and Depression Part 4: Feeling Chipper Today

Single Mothers and Depression Part 5: Some People will Still Bring You Down

Single Mothers and Depression Part 7: The Six Week Checkup


Resources for Single Mothers: Raising Teenagers

I can tell you from my own experience that raising teenagers is not always easy. My teenagers are both girls, so I cannot speak for parents of boys. However, I can tell you that, if you have teenage daughters, there will be a lot of drama in your life. It can sometimes leave a single mother feeling quite drained.

I am still learning how to be a mother to teenagers, even though mine are 19 and 16, and I would like to share some resources with you.

Shannon

P.S. If you have any resources that you would like to share, please do so in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

When Should a Teenager Lose His/Her Privileges?

How Can Teenagers Acquire Privileges?

Are You Really Listening to Your Teenager?

The Teen Years

The Government May Owe You Money


Do Low-Income Children of Single Mothers do Worse in School?

I think not. I do not believe that how well a children does is dependent on either income or whether or not a child’s parents are married. I believe that whether or not a child succeeds in school has more to do with their own motivation, and the support of their parent, even when that parent is a single mother.

Each child is different. Any family unit can have a child who does well in school and a child who does not. The key to success is with the attitude of the family.

What are your views on this subject?

Here is a link for your consideration:

Children of single mothers do just as well in school

 

Shannon


Resources for Women’s Health Concerns

As single mothers, it is important for us to take care of our own health. We need to be able to relax, and to know our bodies so that we know when something isn’t quite right with us.
 
Here are some resources that you will find helpful.
 
Women’s Health Magazine: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/
 
National Women’s Health Information Center: http://www.4woman.gov/
 
Women’s Health Center: http://women.webmd.com/
 
I have also added these to the links on the sidebar.
 
Live Healthy!
Shannon

Single Mothers and Depression Part 3: Happiness and Creativity

I am feeling better today, even happy. I haven’t felt this good in a long time, and I am enjoying it. I am always more creative when I am happy.

Today I entered a contest online. I could win a chance to blog about my weight loss journey, which I am sure will help me along the way.

I have also filled out applications for a few other writing jobs. I am excited over this. I love to write, and I hope to begin earning more money from this venture.

This evening, my best friend and I are going to be hanging out. We will be going out to eat, and then maybe we will do some needed shopping. We will likely have a b**chfest because of some things that have been happening, but I am handling issues better this day. We will talk about everything a bit, then put it behind us and have some fun.

My best friend is being very supportive. She knows that I need to get out and have some fun.

I hope that you all have a best friend whom you can talk to.

Shannon

Other Articles of Interest:

Single Mothers and Depression

Single Mothers and Depression Part 2: Two Weeks After Beginning Medication

Single Mothers and Depression Part 4: Feeling Chipper Today

Single Mothers and Depression Part 5: Some People will Still Bring You Down

Single Mothers and Depression Part 6: Keeping Busy, Keeping Happy

Single Mothers and Depression Part 7: The Six Week Checkup


Mental and Emotional Health: Goal Number One

As per my first goal for 2009.

I have not been doing well for some time, and recently began a course of medication for depression. I am under a doctors care, and am really working toward getting myself into a better place both emotionally and mentally. I know that this is an issue for me, and that is why I made my first goal of the new year one that deals with this aspect of my life.

How many more of you are having problems? I wonder at whether this is predominant or not. Are their a significant number of other single mothers out there with the same issues?

Today, I would like to offer up some links that may be of help, just in case there are others out there who are having problems as I am.

Single Mothers at Greater Risk for Depression

Depression.com

National Institute of Mental Health

WebMD

 

Shannon

P.S. Do you have any resources that you would like to share? If so, please post them in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

New Years Day

Goals for the New Year

Weight Loss and Nutrition: Goal Number Two

Writing (or any number of other activities that could lead to possible income): Goal Number Three

Simplify and Declutter: Goal Number Four

Greening: Goal Number Five

Gardening: Goal Number Six

Spiritual: Goal Number Seven

Rethinking the Holidays: Goal Number Eight

Helping Others: Goal Number Nine


Single Mothers and Loneliness

Loneliness can be a big issue for a single mother, especially if she does not choose to be single. I am a pretty strong person, and I do not normally even let myself feel lonely, but sometimes it can really get me down.

In all honesty, I mostly feel lonely during some sort of crisis. You know, like death, loss of job, nephew driving me crazy. That is when I wish that I had someone here to hold me. Really, I can talk to just about anyone. So it is really just the absence of someone to hold me.

Right now, I am feeling lonely because I would like to have someone there to hold me. I am so stressed out it isn’t even funny. I feel as though nothing will ever be okay again, even though deep down I know that this is not the case.

I can’t do anything about not having anyone to hold me during these trying times, but there are things that we can all do to help ourselves to feel less lonely.

  • Talk. I have a feeling that there will soon be a day when I call my best friend and we go to McDonald’s to talk. I have so much on my mind these days, that this will likely be a necessary step. Why McDonald’s? It is cheap, pure and simple.
  • Read a good book. I just read the entire Twilight series in less than two weeks, and it helped to keep my mind off everything that has been stressing me out. It was a big help, even though it is meant for a younger readership. I was addicted to that like I was to the Harry Potter series. That does not happen often with me.
  • Walk. I do this a lot any way, but when I am stressed I may walk two or three times a day.
  • Blog. I have a private MySpace where only my friends and family gather. I can blog about near about anything on there.

What ideas do you have for helping with loneliness? Mention them in the comments below.

Shannon

P.S. What ideas do you have for helping with loneliness? Mention them in the comments below.

Other Articles of Interest:

A Few Resources for the Single Mother

Resources for Women’s Health Concerns

Books for the Single Mother

Great Movies About Single Moms

The Single Mother and Men


What Chores can My Children do?

This is a common question from many parents. They are wondering what, if anything, there children can do to help out at home at different ages.

Giving children chores provides many benefits:

  • It teaches them responsibility.
  • It shows them that they are important in the up-keeping of their home.
  • It shows them that they are valued for their skills.
  • It shows them that can can accomplish new tasks.
  • They will know that you value their ability to help out when needed.
  • It helps take a little of the load of you, which is especially helpful to single mothers who work inside our outside of the home.

So, what can your children do? Well, that all depends on their ages and abilities, as well as on what you need done. Here are some guidelines:

Toddlers:

  • Pick up their toys and put them in their toy boxes.
  • ‘Help’ mom with little tasks.
  • Pick up their books.
  • Clear their places at the table.
  • Put dirty clothes in the hamper.

Pre-school aged children:

  • Sort socks and match them up while mom is folding laundry.
  • Learn to put clean clothes in drawers with moms help.
  • Pick up after their various activities.
  • ‘Help’ mom with easy food prep.

Young elementary school aged children:

  • They can do everything above on their own.
  • They can also do more food preparation on their own. They can pour their own cereal and measure things out more easily.
  • They can help with younger siblings.
  • Clean the bathroom sink area.
  • Sweep floors.

Older elementary age children:

  • Take out trash.
  • Do some supervised cooking.
  • Vacuum.
  • Dust.
  • Unload the dishwasher or wash dishes in the sink.
  • Strip the beds.
  • Fold laundry and put away.

Teenagers:

  • Young teens should begin learning about the rest of the chores as well as home maintenance. They should also learn things like grocery shopping and menu planning.
  • Older teens should be able to do everything by themselves, but should not be expected to do everything each day. Find the schedule that works best for your family. They may also benefit from a savings/checking account, using their own money.

Hopefully, these guidelines will help you to create the perfect task plans for all of your children.

Shannon

P.S. What chores do you have your children doing at what ages? Let us know by commenting on this post. Your advice will help many other single mothers. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Children and Boredom

Rewarding Good Behaviour