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Single Mothers and Depression Part 4: Feeling Chipper Today

It has been 3 1/2 weeks since I started the course of medication for my depression, and I am doing well with it. I have been downright chipper the last couple of days. Monday I had been feeling better, but Tuesday was a real turning point for me.

I have been feeling all happy and have been getting a lot accomplished around here. It is amazing how much energy that I have to do things. I am a lot more motivated now.

Shannon

P.S. How is your depression progressing. Please let us know in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Single Mothers and Depression

Single Mothers and Depression Part 2: Two Weeks After Beginning Medication

Single Mothers and Depression Part 3: Happiness and Creativity 

Single Mothers and Depression Part 5: Some People will Still Bring You Down

Single Mothers and Depression Part 6: Keeping Busy, Keeping Happy

Single Mothers and Depression Part 7: The Six Week Checkup


Great Movies About Single Moms

I love movies. I watch many. I thought it worthy to post a few here that deal with single mothers. These are the movies that I like the best:

  • Chocolat
  • Jerry McGuire
  • Erin Brokovitch
  • Baby Boon
  • Waitress
  • The First Wives Club
  • Mermaids
  • Terms of Endearment

Shannon

P.S. Do you know any more? Please list them in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Resources for Women’s Health Concerns

Books for the Single Mother


Helping Others: Goal Number Nine

This is the last goal that I made for myself for the year 2009. I have a support system  set up for helping low-income families, as well as homeschool families. I also have this blog.

I plan to keep up with all three of these. I truly do enjoy helping people. And I like to feel useful. I also believe that helping others is a good basis for raising a family. If every household in the world helped other, the world would be a better place.

If you have any goals for helping others, how about sharing them with us in the comments.

Shannon

Other Articles of Interest:

New Years Day

Goals for the New Year

Weight Loss and Nutrition: Goal Number Two

Mental and Emotional Health: Goal Number One

Weight Loss and Nutrition: Goal Number Two

Writing (or any number of other activities that could lead to possible income): Goal Number Three

Simplify and Declutter: Goal Number Four

Greening: Goal Number Five

Gardening: Goal Number Six

Spiritual: Goal Number Seven

Rethinking the Holidays: Goal Number Eight


Single Mothers and Depression Part 2: Two Weeks After Beginning Medication

On December 30th, 2008, I blogged about my diagnosis of depression. It has been two weeks since I began taking the medication that I was prescribed, and they do seem to be kicking in. Though it takes about four weeks to feel the full effect, I am feeling a bit better.

During the second week, things seemed to be looking up a bit. I did have a real rough time yesterday and the day before, though. Here is a small bit of what I wrote about it on my family MySpace blog:

Do you ever feel as though you are sinking into an abyss and you just can’t seem to swim back up to the surface? What is that called?
Before going on this depression medication, I was feeling like I was ready cry at the drop of a hat every day, all day. It was horrible. I felt this weight on my shoulders, this impending sense of doom every second. This doom I had been feeling since about July.
Last week, likely due to the meds. I was starting to feel okay. I didn’t feel like crying all the time, and the sense of doom was gone. I was okay, but not great. Just…better. But it felt good. Last week was the best week that I had had in months. I had hope.

As you can tell, I was having a real tough time for a couple of days. The reason why I felt so bad after beginning to feel better was that I lost my job. Well, I am still providing childcare during school vacations, and should be doing so part-full time by April, but I still have to worry about January-March. I had been told a week ago that I had a full time child until April, only to find out otherwise a couple of days ago.

Now, you would think that I would still be miserable, but I am not – exactly. I feel badly about the situation, but I was not the one to blame for it. I have enough money to pay this, and most of next, months bills. And I know that I will be earning a little more to go toward next months. So I am not completely destitute yet.

Two weeks ago, this would have crushed me and I wouldn’t have been able to pull myself up from it. Today I am okay. Not great, but okay.

So the medications is beginning to work.

I am on the right track, looking for more work. Doing what I am supposed to be doing. And not dwelling, too much.

I am doing a bit better.

Shannon

P.S. Please feel free to share your depression experiences.

Other Articles of Interest:

Single Mothers and Depression

Single Mothers and Depression Part 3: Happiness and Creativity

Single Mothers and Depression Part 4: Feeling Chipper Today 

Single Mothers and Depression Part 5: Some People will Still Bring You Down

Single Mothers and Depression Part 6: Keeping Busy, Keeping Happy

Single Mothers and Depression Part 7: The Six Week Checkup

 

 

 


Mental and Emotional Health: Goal Number One

As per my first goal for 2009.

I have not been doing well for some time, and recently began a course of medication for depression. I am under a doctors care, and am really working toward getting myself into a better place both emotionally and mentally. I know that this is an issue for me, and that is why I made my first goal of the new year one that deals with this aspect of my life.

How many more of you are having problems? I wonder at whether this is predominant or not. Are their a significant number of other single mothers out there with the same issues?

Today, I would like to offer up some links that may be of help, just in case there are others out there who are having problems as I am.

Single Mothers at Greater Risk for Depression

Depression.com

National Institute of Mental Health

WebMD

 

Shannon

P.S. Do you have any resources that you would like to share? If so, please post them in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

New Years Day

Goals for the New Year

Weight Loss and Nutrition: Goal Number Two

Writing (or any number of other activities that could lead to possible income): Goal Number Three

Simplify and Declutter: Goal Number Four

Greening: Goal Number Five

Gardening: Goal Number Six

Spiritual: Goal Number Seven

Rethinking the Holidays: Goal Number Eight

Helping Others: Goal Number Nine


Daily Life for this Single Mom

Some of you may be wondering exactly what it is that I do all day. Do I sit around blogging all day? Watching soap operas? Reading?

No. I am pretty busy.

Here is a general list of what my daily activities look like:

Cooking: Yes, I bake my own bread, cook meals (even breakfast at times) and make a lot of things from scratch. This saves me money that I can use elsewhere.

Cleaning: Yuck! But, yes. Each day I do dishes, laundry, clean the bathroom, make my bed and various other things to keep my household going.

Homeschool my daughter: Yeah, well, I make lesson plans and do all of that stuff, but she is 16 and is mostly learning independently. She is a smart cookie.

Work: Yep. Right now, I babysit. I also homeschool my nephew while he is here. He is 11, so it takes a lot more of my time to homeschool him than it takes me to homeschool my daughter. I also keep this blog, which pays a bill each month.

Blog: Very important, and how I got the job of keeping this blog for you.

Exercise: Walking and other activities that are helping me to lose weight.

Volunteer: I help other low-income and homeschool families.

I have other interests as well. I read, scrapbook, write, walk, planning this years garden, budgeting, sewing curtains….

I am busy.

Why this post? Why would anyone care what I do? Maybe they don’t. There are, however, misconceptions that stay/work-at-home mothers may be a bit lazy. I hope that I have dispelled this myth successfully.

 

Shannon

P.S. Feel free to share your day with us in the comments below.

Other Articles of Interest:

A Few Resources for the Single Mother

The Life of A Single Mother: Busy, Busy, Busy


Goals for the New Year

Mental and Emotional Health:

I am obviously not doing well with this one right now.

I will be sure to take the time to do for myself.

I will work through my depression issues, and continue to see Nicole at the doctors office to be sure that the medication is working properly.

I will be who I am; be true to myself. My beliefs matter, and I cannot be happy if my only goal is to make everyone else happy. I have to be true to my own beliefs.

Weightloss/Nutrition:

I did not do too bad over the last year losing weight. I get many good comments from people who can see the results, even people whom I do not know but whom see me walking all the time. Much good praise comes my way from these people. I could have done better, but I am satisfied.

I will continue to lose weight.

I will build some muscle tone.

I will eat better: Watch serving sizes, less carbs, more water.

I will create a fitness program for myself for this winter.

I will try to avoid artificial sweeteners. I have taken time to research these things more deeply, and I do not like what I am seeing. Natural is best.

Simplify and Declutter:

I am such a pack rat. I may need help with this one. I have to decide what is important and what is not. Only keep what I know is needed.

I will simplify my life, even if it means a dreaded schedule! Too much going on…

I will go through each room (except Zowie’s) and declutter.

Writing:

I love to write, but never have enough time to do so. While simplifying my life, it is my intention to make time every week to write. Not just blog, but write stories.

To continue with the Single Mother blog.

To finish my book of short stories.

Finish stories.

Edit and retype where necessary.

Final edit and retype.

To try to sell some of my other short stories.

To try to sell some articles.

Finish outlines for other books that I am planning.

Greening Goals:

Use less plastic and replace some of the plastic items that we have.

Create less waste.

Purchase fewer products with plastic packaging.

Gardening:

Grow more of our own food organically.

Do more composting.

Start seeds early (outside) and cover for an extended growing season.

Learn succession planting.

Heirloom and Open Pollinated seeds, organic. I am begiining the switch-over from genetically modified seeds/foods to real, nutritious foods.

Spiritual:

Choose and area of study for the year.

Meditation.

Others:

Rethink what the holidays mean to me. Certainly not commercialism, materialism. I want to get away from all of that stuff, without feeling guilty about making purchases. Making things for people and creating less waste will be my goals.

Continue to help homeschooling and low-income families.

 

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Have you thought about your goals for the New Year? Feel free to post them in the comments below if you would like.

Shannon

New Years Day

Mental and Emotional Health: Goal Number One

Weight Loss and Nutrition: Goal Number Two

Writing (or any number of other activities that could lead to possible income): Goal Number Three

Simplify and Declutter: Goal Number Four

Greening: Goal Number Five

Gardening: Goal Number Six

Spiritual: Goal Number Seven

Rethinking the Holidays: Goal Number Eight

Helping Others: Goal Number Nine

 

 


The Teen Years

Welcome to the teen section of the Single Mom blog. Teenagers are special, wonderful people who still need guidance from mom. It is very important that we continue to be there for our children throughout their teen years. It is also important to try very hard to stay close with them at this period in their lives.

That is what this section will help you to do even though, at times, these tasks may seem impossible. Have faith in the fact that your teenagers do still need you, and that they do love you, even though it may not seem so at times.

In this category, I plan to cover several topics, a few are listed here:

  • Teen Dating
  • Date Violence
  • Time with Friends
  • Earning & Keeping Privileges
  • Life Skills
  • Job Opportunities
  • Volunteer Opportunities
  • And More

Stay tuned, and please feel free to post comments to entries that you have experienced with your own teens. Together, we can all get through the teen years.

Shannon

P.S. If there are other teen topics that you would like to read about, please post them in the comments section and I will see what I can do. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

When Should a Teenager Lose His/Her Privileges?

How Can Teenagers Acquire Privileges?

Are You Really Listening to Your Teenager?

Resources for Single Mothers: Raising Teenagers