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The Single Mother and Men

I have noticed a trend over the years. A very disturbing one. This is not just something that I have experienced myself, but something that seems to be happening to a lot of single mothers.

I have a good heart, and I tend to start out trusting people that I bring into my life. Perhaps, it has been suggested, I am just plain too trusting. Who knows? At any rate, I always start a relationship trusting that the person that I choose is honest.

I also am a person who likes to help others.

So, when I do choose to go into a relationship, I expect the man to be a good person, pure and simple. I let the man into my heart, and into my life. I am good to him, I trust him, and I expect him to do the same for me.

I know many other single mothers who live much the same as I do. We seem to want to believe that the men we choose are good.

So, why is it that men seem to like to take advantage of us? That is the question. Even when we do decide to let someone live with us, it seems that we are just a convenience. They don’t seem to want any responsibilities, just a roof over their heads. Even those who work end up jipping us out of bill and rent money in the end. They eat our food as well.

Then, when they leave, they think that they have ownership over our food cupboards and even some of our belongings. Why is this? They want to take food out of our children’s bellies so that they do not have to go hungry. They want to ‘borrow’ money for this and that.

The funny, and most disturbing, part of this is that we do not have any extra money. We, in general, cannot afford to ‘take care of’ a man. Some of us are barely making ends meet as it is.

Many of us are really confused about how a man can come into our lives, be treated well, and use us.

So, what can we do about this? I don’t know about you, but I am on sabbatical from the whole relationship thing. I decided, after my last boyfriend, that I simply needed a break. I am figuring out who I am, and what I want. I am doing things for myself, rather than for a man. And I am enjoying not having to put up with the head games that generally come along with relationships.

I am tired of it all. And, I am getting better. I have found out some very important things about what I want and why. About what I need and why. And about what I am willing to put up with, which isn’t much.

I am doing something good for myself.

Shannon

P.S. What experiences have you had with men? Let us know in the comments section.

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Single Mothers and Loneliness

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