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Of Single Moms and Deadbeat Dads

Posted by singlemom

July 22, 2009 |

My daughter had a deadbeat dad. When he finally started paying child support it amounted to $9.00 per week. Years later, he did let DHHS know that he had a job and was making better money. By that point I decided not to request more child support. By the time she was 18, he had paid DHHS back all of her medical costs and the AFDC/TANF payments.

He met her once, when she was 18 months old. She and I had attempted, when she was younger, to bring him into her life. It apparently was not the right time for him.

Skye is 19 now. Recently, I spent much time on the computer with her tracking him down. She now converses online with him and his sister. She is not quite ready to meet him, though he is attempting to do this. I am very excited that they are finally getting to know each other.

I can tell you that I don’t think this action would hurt anything. Many deadbeat fathers have multiple children by different women. Wouldn’t it be nice to know if the person that you are interested in is a deadbeat father?

I was in a relationship with a man when I was young, after my daughters were born. He seemed like a good enough person, until I found out that he had nothing to do whatsoever with his son. We had been together for a few months when I learned this and realized that he was not the person that I wanted to build a life with.

What are your thoughts on this?

Shannon


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