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Single Mother’s and the Dreaded Sex Talk

Posted by singlemom

April 13, 2009 |

Yep! You knew that this topic had to come up eventually. I have to say, honestly, that I have been very open with my children since they were preteens about the topic of sex. Uncomfortably open from their points of view. I do believe that this is an important step in parenting, so I decided to share a little bit about our talks with you.

First of all, be aware that a lot of children already know a lot about sex by the time they are 10. As disturbing as it is, there are even 10 year olds having sex. Our aim, as single mom’s, is to try to prevent this at such an early age, but also to give them information that they need.

I will leave it up to you to research and decide how best to have these discussions with your children, or even if you should. This decision is yours, completely. I am not trying to push the issue on you.

At some point, you will have to talk to each of your children about many touchy topics. Sex is a touchy topic. You will likely mortify them. They will likely be more embarrassed than you are.

When my children were 11 and 13, I read an article about children their age having oral sex, in their schools. They felt that they weren’t really having sex, because they weren’t having intercourse. These children were still spreading STD’s though.

I spoke with my daughters about this, so that they would know what could happen if they decided to have oral sex. The STD part scared them. Let’s face it, that could be very noticeable on your mouth.

One day, a couple of years later, they told me that their friend was having sex, using a condom. They were convinced that, because their friends said so, condoms were not birth control. I pointed out that anything that prevents pregnancy is a form of birth control. And that their friend was too young to be having sex. I also let them know that using condoms does not guarantee that that you will not get pregnant or acquire STD’s, and why.

So, if you would like to share with others about how you got through the sex talks with your children/teens, feel free to do so in the comments. It is important that we dispel any myths and let them know the dangers of having sex before they go out and just do it.

Shannon

P.S. It always amazes me how many parents really believe that their children are not having sex, when their children really are.


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