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Single Mom Helpers: A Mother’s Helper

Posted by singlemom

March 21, 2009 |

I sometimes fantasize about what it would be like to start over as a single mom. My daughters are 19 and 16, and I would like to have more children. Three or four would be nice.

When I ‘make it’ as a freelance writer, I intend to have another baby. About one a year, actually, until I have the number of children that I want. I actually intend to do this by donor insemination.

I do, however, intend to still work from home. This will be a difficult task with babies and young children around, so I have decided that I would like to hire my niece as a mother’s helper. I’m sure that she will jump at the chance, and that she will enjoy having some spending money.

I would only hire her part time, after school a few days and one weekend day. It would be very helpful to me to have someone around to take care of the little ones while I do some writing.

I will also be able to get in writing time during naps and such. I already have it all planned out.

As a mother’s helper, my niece will take care of the children in my home, while I am working in my home. I will be there if she needs me. I will give her the training the first week, so that she knows what I expect. I will give her dinner, and lunch and snack on the weekend as well. This will be great practice for her before I ask her to babysit without me being there with her.

Shannon

P.S. What are your thoughts on mother’s helpers? Please let us know in the comments. Thank you.

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Comments

2 Comments so far

  1. Cindy on April 2, 2009 2:26 pm

    Is this a joke? Your daughters are 19 and 16 has it ever occured to you that you may become a grandmother in the next 5 years? Instead of you hiring a mother’s helper for yourself YOU will need to help your daughters with their children? Time’s up for you to have a baby. Don’t rob your future grandchildren’s opportunity of having a loving and committed grandma that will care for them, because you are too busy raising your next set of kids.

  2. singlemom on April 10, 2009 7:57 am

    Nope…no joke. Actually, I am only 37. I am still of an age where many people are just starting their families. I wanted more children when I was younger, but didn’t have the finances to have more at the time.

    As for being a grandmother:
    My 16 year old does not plan to have children until after college…and she has 10 years of that to look forward to.

    My 19 year old is planning her first child for when she is around 23. She does not live in my area, and I don’t see her but every six weeks. I am sure that when she has a baby I can carve out the time necessary for being a grand mother.

    Never fear, I have all intentions of spending as much time as possible with my grandchildren, when I can. I, however, taught my daughters to go after life…to not hang around this state just because this is where I am.

    Becoming a grandmother does not necessarily mean that you will be able to see your grandchildren whenever you want.

    And I have enough love to give my own children AND my grandchildren, so I am not worried. Neither are my children. They would like very much for me to have more children.

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