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When Well-Wishers Interfere in the Life of a Single Mother

Posted by singlemom

February 24, 2009 |

I sometimes wonder if certain people think that I do not know how to be a single mother. Maybe they think that I cannot do the job because I have no one to help me. Because I am in this by myself.

I also have to wonder if people even realize that what they are doing, when they are ‘offering their advice,’ is rude. Or if they honestly think that they are helping.

At times in my life, it has felt as though people were talking down to me. Like they thought that I could not be doing anything right because there is only one of me. I am hoping that they did not realize that they are making me feel that way. That they were inadvertently doing this not out of spite, but because they truly wanted to be of help to me.

As a single mother, I can tell you that it is hard raising children on my own. But I do know what I am doing. Single mothers usually do. If we need advice, we will ask. But only if we feel like we can trust the person that we want to ask advice of.

In short, if people do not ‘offer up advice’ and just wait for us to come to them, we will. Patience is a virtue.

Shannon

P.S. Do you have anyone in your life who makes you feel badly about your parenting or housekeeping skills? Feel free to discuss how you handle these situations tactfully in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Daily Life for This Single Mom

The Single Mother and Men


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