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When Disaster Strikes Your Family

Posted by singlemom

December 22, 2008 |

It is hard when something incomprehensible happens to your child, whether they are young, or they are an adult. Something horrible can happen to them at any time. How will you deal with a situation when it arises?

It is hard to know how you will react if your child tells you that he has been beat up and mugged, or that she has been raped. Or that any of a number of other horrible thing has happened to them.

My daughter recently had something happen to her that is very hard for her to deal with. She is having a hard time coping, because she has to deal with the consequences of another persons actions.

My daughter does not live near me, and I cannot go to her. I have been talking to her often, offering up words of wisdom, and generally just trying to help her to cope.

It bothers me that she is so far away, but I know that I could not have prevented what has happened to her. She has her fiance there with her, but I still feel as though it is my place to be there. I am not feeling guilty, mind you. She chose to move so far away, and enjoys her life there.

I am trying to keep my wits about me, not getting overly upset while I am talking to her. I read and do any number of other things to keep my mind from dwelling on the issue so much that I cry even when I am not speaking with her. It is hard, but necessary.

We, as parents, have to realize and accept that we are not always going to be able to be right with our children when disaster strikes. We also are not always going to be able to prevent bad things from happening to them. We cannot blame ourselves for not being there.

Bad things happen, and it is our responsibility to figure out how to deal with those things in a positive way.

Shannon


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