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This is a topic idea that my sister came up with. She, like myself, is a single mother. She does not feel that the school that her older son attends takes her seriously. Her younger son is homeschooled, possibly partly due to this issue. My daughters attended public school when they were younger. I did notice that some of the single mothers’ children were sometimes treated differently. I felt that the school believed that single mothers did not necessarily know what was best for their children, and took advantage of that situation. My older daughter was put into a special reading group unnecessarily. After I took her out of public school to homeschool, I was told by a the certified teacher who reviewed her portfolio that she should not have been in the special reading group to begin with. I knew this, which was one of the reasons that I took her out of school. I had the portfolio reviewer look at all of her public school report cards before giving me her opinion on the matter. I am not saying that all schools do this. The daughter of a divorced mother that I knew was put into the same group as my daughter. She switched school districts and was tested in reading. As it turns out, this woman’s daughter also should not have been placed in the reading group. Is this because I was a single mother, and she was a divorced mother? Not entirely, I don’t think. The problem is that, when a school has special programs, they rely on federal funding. They must have so many students in that program, or they will lose their funding and have to stop the program. I was told this by a certified teacher. Could it be that single mothers are considered easy targets in some public schools? I have been wondering about this for some time. Maybe I am way off base on this one. Comments2 Comments so far |
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I have noticed the difference in the the way children of single moms are treated because I am a single mom. If your child is not “exceptional” they tend to be put in special classes or don’t receive as much attention as children from “normal” two-parent families.
Teachers tried to target my daughter because she didn’t form her d’s and b’s correctly in the time frame they thought she should. They had me all worried until I did some reading on my own and discovered that most kids have that problem when they are learning how to write.
She is now in 7th grade and is an honor student. I taught her how to be an independent student and study and do homework on her own. She is quite intelligent and doesn’t require assistance from me.
My son has some learning challenges right now, but I know that he will be fine over time. Reading is priority and once he gets that very important skill mastered he will excel. He’s had speech delays and has trouble with comprehension but he is trying hard. Fortunately he is at a new school and they are already finding ways to help him. In his previous schools they tried to label him as having ADHD, etc. I refused to let them label him and put him in a special class. He didn’t receive the best education last year either.
So there is some truth that kids of single moms get targeted more than other kids but you have the power to fight against the stereotypes they try to impose on your child. You are their greatest advocate. I applaud you for going the homeschool route too. I was homeschooled and would love to do that for my kids. Until then I continue to empower them and motivate them to do their best.
You have done great things for your children.
In my research, I have found that (most) children’s brains are not really fully enough developed for reading until they are (about) 10. I have noticed problems with many children regarding this, but not all.
However, once their brains are fully developed, they can be at college level reading within a year or two, without much prodding from adults.
It depends on the individual child.
Researchers are wondering if the reason why so many children are “burning out” and dropping out of high school is because we are pushing them to hard to learn things when they are younger.