Single Mothers and Depression Part 6: Keeping Busy, Keeping Happy

I am happiest when I am busy. I think that I may actually have Adult ADD. Why? Because I have so many things going through my mind at once. All of the time. It never seems to stop.

And, if I don’t write everything that comes to mind down, I lose it. I may never remember it.

What does this have to do with depression? Well, I think that this may have left me feeling very overwhelmed recently. This overwhelming feeling may have contributed, at least in a small way, to my depression. I just kept forgetting things, and wasn’t finishing things.

I am taking steps to help myself with this problem, in the form of to-do lists and schedules. Goals and plans. These things should help me greatly.

Yes, I am happiest when my mind has something to do. I just want to start finishing the projects that I have begun before starting new ones. It is a struggle, but I plan to master this skill.

At any rate, I am still feeling pretty chipper. I am enjoying myself more as well, hanging out with my sisters and my best friend more, and talking with my daughter more. Good things are happening, and I am not letting people get me down.

I am in control of my feelings.

Shannon

P.S. What struggles and successes are you having with your depression? Please let us know in the comment section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Single Mothers and Depression

Single Mothers and Depression Part 2: Two Weeks After Beginning Medication

Single Mothers and Depression Part 3: Happiness and Creativity

Single Mothers and Depression Part 4: Feeling Chipper Today

Single Mothers and Depression Part 5: Some People will Still Bring You Down

Single Mothers and Depression Part 7: The Six Week Checkup


The Life of A Single Mother: Busy, Busy, Busy

Do you ever have problems keeping up with everything that you have to do? Does it sometimes feel like life would be easier if you could hand over some of your responsibilities to someone else?

I missed a whole week here, and I apologize. So much has been going on. I am having difficulties keeping up with everything. I am back now, and I will be catching up with the posting that I have missed, on top of doing the posting for the coming week. You will not miss out on anything. I promise.

As I said, I have been busy:

  • I walk every day.
  • I had a variety Show to go to, where my daughter was waitressing for her Key Club.
  • I went out to eat twice with my best friend, and to the movies with her last night. We saw Taken, which I highly recommend.
  • I am organizing and deep cleaning the living room, and trying to get other things done before next week as well. I start babysitting again within the week, and will be doing so away from home during the day. I want my daughter and I to be able to get to our chores quickly each day.
  • I am also starting a freelance career, which will be taking up a lot of my time. This blog is actually part of that career.
  • I have begun some online courses in the writing field.

Business is as business does, and this single mother has been doing a lot.

Shannon

P.S. What is keeping you busy at this time?


Mother and Child Tournament Ideas on Single Mom

Last winter, my 15 year old daughter and I wanted something to do together that we could keep up until spring. We decided on a Rummy tournament. Whenever we had some down time throughout the winter months, we would play 1-3 hands of cards. I ended up winning the tournament, we had fun, and we got to spend quality time doing something together.

This year, we are re-watching The X-Files, going to the movies once in a while, and possibly re-watching all of the Corey/Corey movies. That’s Corey Haim and Corey Feldman. Yes, they are from my time, but I have raised cool daughters!

Here are some other tournament ideas for you and your children to consider:

  • Scrabble
  • A video game
  • Life
  • Monopoly
  • Canasta
  • Cribbage

Shannon


Resources for Single Mothers: Raising Teenagers

I can tell you from my own experience that raising teenagers is not always easy. My teenagers are both girls, so I cannot speak for parents of boys. However, I can tell you that, if you have teenage daughters, there will be a lot of drama in your life. It can sometimes leave a single mother feeling quite drained.

I am still learning how to be a mother to teenagers, even though mine are 19 and 16, and I would like to share some resources with you.

Shannon

P.S. If you have any resources that you would like to share, please do so in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

When Should a Teenager Lose His/Her Privileges?

How Can Teenagers Acquire Privileges?

Are You Really Listening to Your Teenager?

The Teen Years

The Government May Owe You Money


Single Mother’s and Weightloss

When our children are young, it can be difficult to stay in shape. As single mother’s, we so not have the option of letting dad take care of the children while we take care of ourselves.

Here are some ideas for losing weight or keeping weight off:

  • Family walks are an excellent way to get in a lot of the needed 10,000 steps a day. Walk to the playground. Walk to run errands. Take a walk around the neighborhood before bath time in the evenings.
  • Play Frisbee or basketball at the park.
  • Put on some music and dance around the living room with your children.
  • Find ways in which you can do easy exercises with your children.
  • Invest in family exercise programs on DVD, or see what is available at your local library.
  • Go on hikes.
  • Run through the puddles on a rainy day.
  • Play on the playground equipment with your children.
  • Run through the sprinkler with your children.
  • Go sledding as a family.

Keeping active is an important aspect of having a healthy body, for both you and your child.

Shannon

P.S. Can you think of any other activities?


Do Low-Income Children of Single Mothers do Worse in School?

I think not. I do not believe that how well a children does is dependent on either income or whether or not a child’s parents are married. I believe that whether or not a child succeeds in school has more to do with their own motivation, and the support of their parent, even when that parent is a single mother.

Each child is different. Any family unit can have a child who does well in school and a child who does not. The key to success is with the attitude of the family.

What are your views on this subject?

Here is a link for your consideration:

Children of single mothers do just as well in school

 

Shannon


Resources for Women’s Health Concerns

As single mothers, it is important for us to take care of our own health. We need to be able to relax, and to know our bodies so that we know when something isn’t quite right with us.
 
Here are some resources that you will find helpful.
 
Women’s Health Magazine: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/
 
National Women’s Health Information Center: http://www.4woman.gov/
 
Women’s Health Center: http://women.webmd.com/
 
I have also added these to the links on the sidebar.
 
Live Healthy!
Shannon

Choosing Single Motherhood

More and more women seem to be choosing single motherhood. They may choose to concentrate on their education, or their careers, rather than on a relationship with a man. Maybe they haven’t had good relationships with men in the past. There are numerous reasons why a woman may choose single motherhood.
 
Here are a couple of websites for you to visit for more information:
 
Choice Moms: For women who are looking at being single mothers, and for those who already are. January’s theme is Building a Support Network.
 
 
Single Mothers by Choice: Support and Information.
 
 
I know that these links will be of help to you, and I have also linked to them in the sidebar.
Shannon

Books for the Single Mother

I love to read, and will use any excuse to do so. So it shouldn’t come as a surprise that I would read books on single parenthood. Here, I am offering up a list of books for the single mother.

  • Single Mothers by Choice: A Guide for Single Women Who are Considering or Have Chosen Motherhood by Jane Mattes C.S.W.
  • The Single Mothers Survival Guide by Patrice Karst
  • Raising Boys without Men: How Maverick Moms are Creating the Next Generation of Exceptional Men by Peggy F. Drexler and Linden Gross
  • Single by Choice, Mothers by Choice: How Women are Choosing Parenthood without Marriage and Creating the New American Family by Rosanna Hertz
  • On Our Own: Unmarried Motherhood in America by Melissa Ludtke
  • Holding Her Head High: Inspiration from 12 Single Mothers Who Championed Their Children and Changed History by Janine Turner
  • Something Like Beautiful: One Single Mother’s Story by Asha Bandele
  • Accidentally on Purpose: A One-Night Stand, My Unplanned Parenthood, And Loving the Best Mistake I Ever Made by Mary F. Pols
  • Double Take: A Single Woman’s Journey to Motherhood by Kathryn Cole
  • Without a Net: Middle Class and Homeless (with Kids) in America – My Story by Michelle Kennedy

That is quite the list, and will provide you with a lot of reading time and advice on single motherhood.

Shannon

P.S. If you know of any other books on the topic of single motherhood, please list them in the comments.


Single Mothers and Depression Part 5: Some People will Still Bring You Down

I’m not sure if they are trying to or not, but there are people out there who will bring you down again and again. Even when they know that you are on medication because you have been too depressed to handle things on your own.

I keep asking myself. why are they doing this? Do they really not get that I am working very hard to not be depressed? That every day can be a struggle?

Who knows?

I have been working very hard at not letting people and situations get me down. It is not always easy, but I am able to do this more and more. Am I getting better? I hope so.

When people are consistently bringing me down, I find myself trying not to talk with them about the stressful stuff. But I don’t ignore them completely. I send them little notes and make small talk with them.

I am trying to nicely let people know that I can’t handle their stresses right now. I am there to support them, but only if they are ready to do something about their situation.

Simply put: I can’t help them if they won’t help themselves.

Shannon

PS: How are you handling your depression? Any tips? Please tell us in the comments section. Thank you.

Other Articles of Interest:

Single Mothers and Depression

Single Mothers and Depression Part 2: Two Weeks After Beginning Medication

Single Mothers and Depression Part 3: Happiness and Creativity

Single Mothers and Depression Part 4: Feeling Chipper Today

Single Mothers and Depression Part 6: Keeping Busy, Keeping Happy

Single Mothers and Depression Part 7: The Six Week Checkup


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